I flew down to my husband on Friday to spend the weekend with him. I was so thrilled to see him that I almost forgot to do what I went there to do – snoop. Now, don’t judge me. A long distance marriage is tough. And it makes matters worse if you know that something is cooking but you can’t do anything about it. You have to trust that your husband will just come out and tell you.
But of course, that doesn’t happen…
I already knew that Candice has asked him for coffee. So I casually asked him on Friday how his week was, has he seen any of his old friends, has any of his friends asked him for coffee or something…
I then looked me right in the eye and lied. “No”, he assured me.”No one has asked me out for coffee or anything. In fact, I am very lonely here. Wish you will move down sooner.”
Sigh…I gave him the platform to tell me. And he stuck to his guns – no “friend” has invited him to anything. So I did what I had to do – I snooped. I’m not proud of this. But what I found made me sick to my stomach – I found nothing! As in NO history of any chat with Candice! So where is it? Does he have a secret forum where he chats with her? It’s not in Whatsapp, Gmail, Inbox, Facebook Messenger…where is it?! I know that she has asked him over a message! So this means only one thing:
He is hiding it. He doesn’t delete any of his conversations or even archives them. Why would he delete or hide this chat unless there is something to hide???
Game face on. Bob is done showering and comes back into the room. I pretend that everything is okay but my heart is screaming out: JUST TELL ME WHAT IS GOING ON!!!
On Saturday we went to the beach and had a really lovely day. Every now and then I would try to drop some hints hoping that he will open up to me.
“This is ridiculous!”, I think to myself. “Why won’t he just tell me if another girl asks him out for coffee? Then we can laugh about it and move on. Why hide this from me?”
On Sunday I couldn’t take it anymore. I asked him again if there has been anyone that asked him on a coffee or supper date. He denied it again.
I then told him:”I know something. But I want you to tell me out of your own because it is the right thing to do. Not because I am prodding you.”
He then said:”Okay, I told Candice we, as in all of us, should hang out sometime. She then asked what about this weekend and I told her that it won’t be possible because you will be coming home and I would like to spend some time with you.”
Another lie, but we are heading towards the truth.
I then said:”Bob, quit lying to me. I told you, I know…”
Bob:”How do you know?”
Turning the tables. Still not owning up.
I guess it’s my turn to lie…
“Your friend Candice send me a message and asked me what is wrong with you. She said that she invited you over for coffee but you said that you had to drop your car off at the airport. She said that she was worried about you.”
Silence. He fumbles with his fingers…
Oh no, I knew it…